Comments on: Fear is my ally http://www.mindfulpurpose.com/everyday-mindfulness/fear-is-my-ally Make a difference! Sat, 28 Jan 2012 00:11:42 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: sunada http://www.mindfulpurpose.com/everyday-mindfulness/fear-is-my-ally/comment-page-1#comment-1949 sunada Tue, 07 Jun 2011 15:46:45 +0000 http://www.mindfulpurpose.com/?p=738#comment-1949 Hi Jo, It sounds like what you're struggling with is the content of your thoughts -- e.g. what others think, thoughts about success or failure, etc. As long as we pay attention to them, we're adding fuel to their fire, making them stronger. When I say to sit with fear, I don't mean to sit with the thoughts. I mean instead to sit with the present-moment experience of it. How does it feel in your body? Where do you feel sensations? What's the quality of energy in your body/mind? etc. This way, we're staying mindful of what's REAL (your experience) as opposed to your thoughts, which are not real. This is how I suggest you work with it. To not fight against the thoughts directly, but to put our attention elsewhere, to contact the ground of what's really going on for you, right now. And that's a lot closer to the truth than anything your mind can dream up. Does that help? Hi Jo, It sounds like what you’re struggling with is the content of your thoughts — e.g. what others think, thoughts about success or failure, etc. As long as we pay attention to them, we’re adding fuel to their fire, making them stronger. When I say to sit with fear, I don’t mean to sit with the thoughts. I mean instead to sit with the present-moment experience of it. How does it feel in your body? Where do you feel sensations? What’s the quality of energy in your body/mind? etc. This way, we’re staying mindful of what’s REAL (your experience) as opposed to your thoughts, which are not real. This is how I suggest you work with it. To not fight against the thoughts directly, but to put our attention elsewhere, to contact the ground of what’s really going on for you, right now. And that’s a lot closer to the truth than anything your mind can dream up.

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]]> By: Jo http://www.mindfulpurpose.com/everyday-mindfulness/fear-is-my-ally/comment-page-1#comment-1948 Jo Mon, 06 Jun 2011 23:20:28 +0000 http://www.mindfulpurpose.com/?p=738#comment-1948 Thanks for that Sunada, I struggle with fears, about what others think, about success, about failure, about love,and have tried sitting and feeling my fear and moving through it but sometimes I can't seem to get through it to the other side. Is there anything I can say to myself as I work through the process which might help? Thanks for that Sunada, I struggle with fears, about what others think, about success, about failure, about love,and have tried sitting and feeling my fear and moving through it but sometimes I can’t seem to get through it to the other side. Is there anything I can say to myself as I work through the process which might help?

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